What Stops Us from Having a Beautiful Life?Never Stigmatize Your Life Troubles

Margaret W. Lavigne

What stops us from having a beautiful life? Countless people feel they are badly rewarded by God. They believe they deserve more. They assume their effort and benevolence deserve a better life or more blessings for being a good-hearted person. But countless people know nothing about the 7 heavenly virtues.


God sees things differently from human beings. As our life differs from our original plan, don’t be scared. God has a better arrangement for us.

In a sense, life troubles can be the chance to secure “personal awakening” or “dramatic personal growth.” Because “God has a better plan for us” or we are chosen by God to complete a mission to make the world a little better. As to God’s discipline, there will be compensations. Again, we should not identify life challenges as life troubles or God’s punishment if we don’t deserve it.


When it comes to the definition of a good person, most people think of boundless forgiveness, obligatory tolerance and charity, but countless people have no idea about the 7 heavenly virtues[1] and 7 deadly sins[2], all of which should be the memorized for everyone. The fact is that most people underestimate the sins of prejudice, anger, habitual laziness and apathy, all of which are included in the 7 deadly sins.



Do you identify a blessed life an easy life without any life troubles, worries and challenges? Are we good enough to take the blessings from God? Do we disappoint God again and again that we waste our talents by leaving our duties and responsibilities behind and seeking fame and wealth instead in the capitalist society? Do we ignore the 7 heavenly virtues dictated in the Bible?


As something bad happens, would you identify it as a life trouble or life challenge? As to the occurrence of unexpected problems or traumatic events, would you take it as something normal or abnormal, fair or unfair?


Your emotions and response, either positive or negative, would highly affect how you deal with life challenges in your life journey.


As I delve more into the Bible, I came to realize the importance of “temperance.” Most people ignore potential damaging effects of unlimited freedom, unduly greed and pride. The key to happiness and blessing is not unlimited freedom but self-discipline in which is identified as one of the 7 heavenly virtues.


Without executing self-discipline, habitual compulsive laziness makes us disappoint about ourselves. Because we can never get what we want out of life by being indolent.



The world is rife with negative energy, too much anger,[1] sorrow, regrets and indignation. Too much bitterness, too much antagonism and too much depression around the world.


Social prejudice is much like air pollution that people breathe it or spread it without awareness. Social prejudice is everywhere and people are unaware of their faults.

Countless people find themselves not good enough to be loved or “not successful yet” to be respected.


Pride is a key element of social prejudice. Any form of prejudice initiates implicit bullying and persecution. For instance, those who stigmatize divorce are the culprit to imprison women in toxic or even abusive marriages.


What ruins the harmony of the world? I would say, too many people suffer from an unjustified sense of inferiority and discrimination from the mainstream global society, which stops people from chasing what they truly want out of life.

Prejudice commonly triggers discrimination, conflicts and trauma. There’s a strong connection between social prejudice and any form of violence in the society, such as collective bullying, verbal abuse and social exclusion.


Restless souls are everywhere. What makes countless people suffer from negative self-perception? If we are situated in a victim-blaming environment, what are the toxic beliefs coming from? Who can be the judge?


God’s always watching over us. Keep goodwill in the hard times. Stay positive. Never loss hope in the future. The best plan or love choice in your eyes is not absolutely a good idea in God’s sight.


According to the Bible, the all-knowing God knows our desires and motives. Situated in a capitalist society, are we living in a world lack of compassion?[1]


Countless people recognize life troubles or traumatic events as God’s punishments. What about the great figures in history? According to the Bible, God only disciplines those He loves. And most people are unaware of the fact that “easy life can be temptations.”


“Post-traumatic growth” is possible for everyone is there’s no foolish social prejudice and pervasive malicious false beliefs.


What’s the difference between God’s discipline and God’s punishment? The former demonstrates God’s love because God wants to lead us to the right route and the latter shows God’s wrath to the injustice. Thus, if we deal with God’s discipline properly without losing our goodwill, there will be compensations.

Are we trapped by conditional happiness? Depression is a widescale phenomenon on earth and some wounded souls become angry restless souls.


Generally, chronic depression roots in “unfulfilled desires”, “unsolved mental wounds” or “losing hope for a better future.”


Some angry souls become the all-year-round workaholic, trying too hard to prove themselves to the world. And some depressed souls lose their hope for a better future by giving up all the life expectations early in life. They doubt their ability to secure what they want. The depressed souls stop believing any blessing or luck. They assume nothing good will happen. Some of them learn to blame themselves or even God.


Chronic depression and “chronic anxiety disorder” have become a universal worldwide phenomenon, why? Depression and self-loathing often highly linked. Any form of mental disorder or trauma has a strong connection to “social stigma, “which potentially leads to suicide.[1] Stigma-based bullying has always been around. Discrimination-oriented social prejudice is everywhere. Indeed, social prejudice generally leads to individuals’ social phobia or self-isolation.


False beliefs are dangerous. Too many people suffer from social anxiety or even social phobia because they learn to devalue themselves while their self-values are being repeatedly badly judged or harshly criticized by the snobs.

What are the contributing factors to worldwide tragedies? The causality between toxic social aura and rampant depressed individuals[1] are assured. Are we surrounded by snobs in the global capitalist society? Are we one of them? Are we at the mercy of vicious biases, deliberate social prejudice or groundless false religious beliefs?


The society should not ask the wounded souls to take cognitive behavior therapy or mindfulness training to combat social anxiety or social phobia. Instead, we should demand the mainstream society to stop spreading false pernicious dogma. By doing so, we earn the chance to end malicious social prejudice on a global scale.


People cast doubts on the miracles from God, God’s arrangement, God’s wrath and Final Judgment and the existence of guardian angel because they do not see it or witness it in person. What would God feel as HE notices that so many people casting doubts on His existence or even defying his existence?


Do we harbor non-conscious spontaneous bias against people we barely know? Every individual can be easily deceived or gullible when we are being clueless about something or someone. I was totally gullible but I didn’t aware of it and I was judgmental. I was the one who breathed and internalized social prejudice without awareness.



It’s human nature to seek intimacy and a sense of belonging. As to the love relationship, are we the captive of fairy tales? What are the subtle signs of a bad or wrong relationship?


Does the mainstream public harden against women who fail to find their Mr. Right smoothly in the route of love-searching by believing a good-hearted woman is supposed to be the Cinderella in real life and marrying a Mr. Perfect rather than a Mr. Wrong or Mr. Abusive?


Ending a bad relationship is absolutely a wise, valid and justified decision. If people need to boost their courage to end an unhealthy or loveless relationship, there must be something wrong with the society.


[1] According to World Health Organization, more than 300 million people suffer from depression on a worldwide scale.

[1]Suicide is the second leading cause of death in 15-29-year-old. Most people might agree that mental wounds take more time to heal than physical wounds.

[1] Apathy is one of the 7 deadly sins.

[1] Give your anger a deadline.

[1] The seven heavenly virtues refer to prudence, justice, temperance, courage, faith, hope and charity.

[2] The seven deadly sins refer to pride, envy, anger, dejection, avarice, gluttony and lust.


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