Compulsive hoarding | 囤積者與收藏者最大差別在於_____是否提升

泛心理學:斷捨離好難,囤積症的症狀?

雜物間裡堆滿用不到的電器、不會再用的玩具和衣服。你堅守的勤儉的美德,是否不知不覺地侵害你的生活品質?收留那些廉價又用不到的東西好多年了,你的生活品質是否更好?還是那些多餘的雜物,已經造成你心裡的困擾,甚至是收納失敗或購物過剩的罪惡感?

 

 囤積者與收藏者最大差別在於生活舒適度是否提升

用過的寶特瓶和抹布等廉價雜物收集成山成癮,你可能換上「囤積症」。

據德國人類學家威納穆恩斯特伯格(Werner Muensterberger)《難以駕馭的收藏激情》(Collecting: An Unruly Passion: Psychological Perspectives)一書寫道「收藏」應有以下特色: 一。「必須由1個以上物件組成」。二。「物品之間要有關連性」,三。「通常由積極手段而來」並且被「妥善陳列」。 囤積者與收藏者最大差別是「有無對『生活舒適度』造成妨礙」。

 

 

一邊更新一邊淘汰

小編司馬儀的想法:保留一些可能需要用到的東西雖然是美德,但過度就會有害居家生活空間的品質。譬如,破舊的毛巾雖然可以當作抹布,但十條左右就已經屬於上限,應該一邊更新一邊淘汰,如果抹布數量大於十條,應該就符合囤積症的傾向了。又像是小朋友小時候的腳踏車,如果放了超過五年甚至十年都沒有人使用,又不捐出去,也是一種浪費,對居家空間也是一種負擔。以衣物來說,應該控制衣物空間的數量(才不至於讓過多的衣物降低了居家生活品質),盡可能把衣物送給身邊的朋友,或交換也可以,或透過蝦皮拍賣把衣服賣出也可以。

 

對於無法輕易捨棄東西的人,專家June Saruwatari提出三個建議

  1. 我真的喜歡這個東西嗎?
  2. 這個東西對生活的意義是什麼?
  3. 它能幫助我達到什麼目的嗎?
  4. 我需要那麼多嗎?這些東西是否已經佔據太多空間?(小編)

 

「購物狂囤積者」

據美國臨床心理學家大衛托林(David F. Tolin)研究囤積者中,有超過八成無法停止攫取物品,其中七成五的患者常買個不停,買的時候不會管自己錢夠不夠、家裡有沒有地方擺。

美國史密斯學院心理系教授藍迪佛羅斯特(Randy Frost)稱此為「購物療法」(retail therapy)。 簡言之,他們透過積極購物消除negative emotion、獲得心理上的自我彌補和滿足感。

 

「拾荒型囤積者」

拾荒型囤積者撿個不停,空瓶、空盒等堪用廢棄物不停收集。專家說囤積症患者所無法處理的其實是分離,他們「分離」過程充滿焦慮、壓力與不快。

 


紀念性的東西太多,空間不夠,該怎麼辦?

Solution 

  1. 拍照紀念,只留下最愛

成山的卡片和照片或小紙條都有年代上記憶上的情感,就拍照吧。或者利用收納的方法,暫時分門別類放在小盒中或多餘的行李箱中。

  1. 保留一定數量<如限制抹布最多十條,馬克杯最多20個,衣櫃衣服最多30件之類>,定時淘汰不需要或過多的items

The benefit of frugality is overrated by the public. Instead of being obsessed with frugality, we’d better focus on building their wealth by earning more money.
Focus on increasing our income and investing can be a more effective option.
Investing build wealth which last generations. Make less effort on clipping coupons or seeking the cheapest gas station.
Value your time. If you overly focus on saving every penny, it might potentially lower your life quality and sense of satisfaction. Invest early and you might get a better life in the next decades.


“It’s been theorized that keeping clutter is a sign of a fear of death […] but I think it signals other fears too [….] In order to win back my coveted open space and make the room usable, I was going to have to get rid of a lot […] So I made the rounds nearly every week, bringing items to consignment shops, the charity store, the book sale donation bin. [….]  For the more unusual items (Rug hooking supplies? Boxes of paper file folders?), I joined a local online marketplace and started posting items for a nominal fee or for free. I met people in parking lots to hand over unwanted lamps…”How I Went From Being A Hoarder To A Minimalist: An important Difference between “clutter” and “mess.”     By Eve O. Schaub

 

Reference

The Connection Between Hoarding, minimalism  and Extreme Frugal Living

How I Went From Being A Hoarder To A Minimalist: An important Difference between “clutter” and “mess.”     By Eve O. Schaub

How Hoarding Can Hurt Your Finances?Why Do People Hoard?

The Cult Of Frugality—Why Being Frugal Doesn’t Work

Thrifty Experiment: How This Couple Lived on Just $34 a Week: It’s not as bad as you think.

 

 

 

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