Smiling Depression: Life Can Be Beautiful Without Perfection| Wise Library 1985

By Margaret W. Lavigne

Studies verify the fact that human beings might be depressed with smiles and laughter. There are people who with depression do not show any signs of depression to people around them while they are suffering inside. There are people who feel depressed managed to mask or suppress their depression every single day. It’s a commonplace thing for everyone to experience a low mood, but people with depression lose pleasure and passion in activities they used to love. For people with smiling depression, they are able to carry pleasant conversations and they socialize with others without any problem. They put on a mask to the outside world without revealing their worries and sufferings. They are the ones who digest their own pain without seeking any help.


“Smiling Depression” Is Prevalent
According to the statistics, about one in ten people is depressed. For people who suffer from smiling depression, they are able to carry on their daily routines as before even though they feel hopeless and down. They may not even notice their mental problems and end up leaving their depression untreated.


Not everyone is being conscious of their state of mind. It’s a commonplace thing that those who is willing to take time to work on their vulnerabilities live a much better life after defeating their weakness. 

I would say, anxiety is the sign of unshakable persistent fear. Anxiety occurs to those who fail to bear uncertainty. 

Coping with Depression

As we desire to protect our loved ones, we become mentally strong and undefeatable. Likewise, as we tend to seek love and attention from others, we become mentally vulnerable. Begging for love and attention makes us weak and vulnerable by position yourself in a passive dominated position. By offering love and help, we become the strong, the caregiver and the protector.

Austrian neurologist Viktor Frankl asserts that we shouldn’t aim to be in a “tension-less state”, free of responsibility and challenges, but rather we should be striving for having a purpose in life. He believes that having a purpose in life is the cornerstone of good mental health.

▼▲Famed Hong Kong female singer Fiona was suffering from depression and obsessed with the thought of committing suicide. She was the one who wore her smiles all the time in the public sphere that most people were surprised to know her inner struggling. She tried hard to hide her pain from others. 

Cognitive behavioral therapy works on changing your thinking patterns.

Demi Lovato speaks openly that she was living with bipolar disorder. Her path to self-love hasn’t been easy. She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2011. She was struggling with bulimia for many years.

Demi Lovato shares her experience in saying “It’s all about self-love…Be gentle with yourself…and remember that life is too short to worry about what others think…The more you tell yourself that you’re beautiful, the more you start to believe it.”


Advice from Margaret W. Lavigne 

Keep learning is one of the best ways to help you fight against your fears and weakness. Be aware of the dangers of negative emotions, such as suppressed anger, pessimism, laziness and vanity. Vanity is the sign of vulnerability that you tend to boost your confidence through others. By doing so, you put yourself in a passive and powerless position. 


Find the roots of your depression, fear and anxiety. Measure how much time you need to achieve what you want out of life. By improving your weakness, your utmost weakness might turn out to be your strength. Be patient and be hopeful.

Surprisingly, famed actor Chris Pratt has struggled with low self-esteem. He suffered from emotional eating. He said  ” I do know what it feels like to eat emotionally, and… to be sad and make yourself happy with food. And then to be almost immediately sad again and now ashamed and then to try to hide those feelings with more food. I know what that’s like. It’s a vicious cycle.”


It’s common for people to resist food pleasures. Excessive food pleasure makess him feel ashamed for his low self-discipline. People might resonate with his story. Material comfort provides us a shortcut to secure immediate fleeting pleasure. Material possessions and food pleasure both make it easier to ignore our own mental needs. Nevertheless, both material possessions and food pleasure can’t erase our mental wounds nor bring us true permanent inner peace.

Emma Watson confessed that she “was riddled with insecurity and self-critiquing.” It’s so hard for people to see themselves in a positive light when we are constantly bombarded with false perfect life on social media. It might be more stressful for those who is just trying to build their confidence in their twenties.


Nicole Scherzinger was battling with the issue of low self-worth that she thought she wasn’t good enough. She suffered from the self-doubts and self-criticisms o. She thought she wasn’t pretty, fat, and wasn’t worthy of so much.   Her experience verified the link between mental illness and disordered eating. She told herself at the age of 27 that she would lose everything if she didn’t love herself. She said, “I’m never letting that happen again.”

Popstar Selena Gomez said she canceled her world tour and went to therapy because she was suffering from depression and anxiety disorders. She confessed that “My self-esteem was shot. I was depressed, anxious. I started to have panic attacks right before getting onstage, or right after leaving the stage. Basically I felt I wasn’t good enough, wasn’t capable…. which, I think, was a complete distortion,” she said. She pinpoints the fact that confidence doesn’t happen overnight.


If you can’t shake off the idea of committing suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or the Suicide Crisis Line at 1-800-784-2433. If you are suffering from chronic depression and losing your rationality, please call the National Depressive/Manic-Depressive Association Hotline at 1-800-826-3632 or the Crisis Call Center’s 24-hour hotline at 1-775-784-8090.

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