“Leave the past behind. Smile every day.”《Sex and the City》Samantha
Margaret W. Lavigne: As you overly care about others’ feedback, as you overly seek love and attention from anyone, you put yourself in a passive manipulated position to be judged or to be controlled. By doing so, your mental health will be in danger that you are more likely to lose ourself and you can barely enjoy permanent inner peace. People changes and not everyone can return your love as God. How can you make a wise decision when your brain is stuffed with thousands of opinions and reactions from people around you?
“Why does everybody have to get married and have kids? It’s so cliché.”《 Sex and the City》Samantha
Margaret W. Lavigne: I would say, there’s nothing wrong to get married, but it’s never an obligation or necessity for all women, especially when the marriage system is a flawed system that married women are expected to share more unreasonable responsibilities than married men overall. That’s why the divorce rate is so high across all countries and depressed married women are everywhere. A high percentage of women are desperate to be in love or get married due to the fantasy of fairy tales. Marriage is not a fantasy. Marriage is about dealing with more interpersonal relationships, more communication, more negotiation, and more compromises. A high percentage of married women are suffering from long-term sleep deprivation, which potentially leads to chronic illness such as diabetes and depression. Women want to be loved and be envied.
In truth, handling a marriage is never easy. Keeping an unhappy marriage can be tough. Keeping a loveless marriage can be unbearable. Keeping a loveless marriage is a permanent punishment for both parties. However, ending an unhealthy relationship is only for the strong, not for the weak.
“If I worried what every bitch in New York was saying about me, I’d never leave the house.”《Sex and the City》Samantha
Margaret W. Lavigne: If you worry about people’s judgment as always, you don’t have a life indeed. It’s your life, or do you have one? Stop caring what people think of you. Stop worrying about how others will react. It’s a waste of your time and energy. Free yourself from the useless burden imposed by the opinions of the majority. The majority can be fools for sure, but try to live peacefully with everyone. According to the Bible, God does value the power of tenderness and God holds anger against pride, conflict, and bullying.
“The right guy is an illusion. Start living your lives.”《 Sex and the City》Samantha
Margaret W. Lavigne: True love never comes once in life. Love occurs easily if you are a person full of love to give. Enjoy your life, with or without a partner. As you build a better life when you are single, you have a greater chance to have a better love relationship next time. It’s terribly easy to find someone to date if you never say no. Never rush yourself into a relationship, that’s a sign of helplessness. As you learn to deal with solitude better and embrace your imperfections better, you lower your chances to be fall in love out of loneliness.
Margaret W. Lavigne: As you make your life centres around a man, you are making yourself less attractive. I guarantee. The man you love should not be the exclusive source of all your happiness. That’s dangerous. Life is full of unknown. You never know.
Margaret W. Lavigne: Be your master and seek advice from God. As you abide by the 7 heavenly virtues in the Bible, God will respond to your prayer. Forgiveness is a hard lesson for everyone. As we repent our faults, including minor errors, we learn to be humble and compassionate. Understanding and compassion activate forgiveness.
As we seize the faults of others, we turn ourselves into an angry unpaid ombudsman. As we repent our faults and focus on correcting ourselves, we earn forgiveness from God and we earn a better future and better me.