Watch Your Negative Emotions. 9 Tips to Manage and Control Your Anger Effectively.
In the book, A Stroke of Insight, Neuroscientist and stroke survivor, Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor found that anger triggers a physical reaction which only lasts 90 seconds. After 90 seconds, we are free to turn our attention elsewhere. It notes “If I remain angry after those 90 seconds have passed, it’s because I have chosen to let that (neuro) circuit run.” In a sense, after the first 90 seconds, your rationality back.
How to direct our attention and thoughts when we get angry?
For instance, the next time I get angry or upset, I told myself that it’s God’s test or Satan’s trick again. And I won’t disappoint God and I will lose my battle to Satan either.
Anger and tragedy come hand in hand. Anger consumes your energy and damages our body and health more than we thought. Anger accumulate stress and it promises early aging. Thus, be kind to yourself and practice rationality on a daily basis.
Bottom line: Sometimes, you deserved to get angry. But the cost is too high. Set a deadline for your anger out of self-love and self-protection. ★
Watch Your Negative Emotions, It’s Satan’s Attack….
“ You wonder why it’s so hard to find some peace of mind?… The devil doesn’t want us to think clearly about sin. He keeps things vague so that he can imprison and disarm us […] Watch your emotions […] Moods don’t come out of nowhere. When we are angry, discouraged, depressed, anxious, self-pitying, fearful, or irritable, it is likely because we are believing something very specific” Jon bloom, Where Satan Will Attack You Today
It’s necessary to deal with anger in a rational and a positive way. It’s easy to say something you’ll later regret when we get offended.
9 Tips to Manage and Control Your Anger
１．Do not say anything as you are irritated. Anger stops us from thinking clearly. You’d better not express your thoughts when your anger escalates.
２．Leave the spot. Go for a brisk walk or run and promise to deal with the issue after both parties chilling down.
３．Focus on working on the resolution. Avoid criticizing or placing blame.
４．Anger triggers negative emotions and it will ultimately destroy your rationality and positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by a negative self.
５．Forgive someone who angered you out of self-love. Everyone makes mistakes. When we make mistakes, we desire to be forgiven.
６．Take traumatic events as the test or course from God. ★★
Trust me. If you perform well in troublesome events, you pass the course. It will only lead you closer to the route of heaven. Life happens just once. Grab the chance to show “a better me” to God’s tests.
７．Take bad news as a possible gift from God. As I look back the life-changing events, It’s true. ★★
８．Avoid sarcasm. It only makes things worse and do you no good.
９．Satan will be attracted by negative emotion. Do not loss your battle to Satan. ★
Warning Signs: How to Deal with A Wicked Person
Simply put, a wicked person is someone who engages in malevolent behaviors. Evil people often the ones you wouldn’t expect or least expect.
There are warning signs which help you tell you if a person is wicked or not. Spot these characteristics in someone and you should better keep a distance with them.
What’re the traits of an evil person or a wicked person?
- Habitual Dishonesty: They constantly tell lies. They are compulsive liars.
They tell lies to make themselves feel better or attack others. They twist the truth to make themselves more presentable, stronger or smarter. They live double lives by masking themselves to everyone. They will never reveal themselves to anyone. They create a well-devised history. When caught in a lie, they will try to gaslight others no matter what. To shake off blame and responsibilities, they would rather twist the facts by slander or flat-out lies. They tend to mislead people into thinking one way or another about them and about yourself by twisting the facts.
- They lack empathy and compassion. They fail to put themselves into other’s shoes.★
- They would rather sacrifice everyone and everything for their own interest.
- They don’t believe in love. ★
- They never trust anyone. ★
- They are good at manipulating others.
- They blame everyone for their faults.
- They often talented liars or compulsive liars. They are comfortable with lies. They build their lives around telling lies. M. Scott Peck wrote a book called People of the Lie. Being a psychiatrist, he studies evil people and he found that the one thing evil people share all in common was a persistent need to lie. Hence, they have trust issues. that they can’t entrust any part of their lives to another person.
- They are hypocrites.
- They are dying for wealth and fame.
- They always consider how to gain from people around them and how to maximize their self-interest.
- They are incredibly concerned with their appearances.
- They want others to envy them by bragging about their life and inflate their wealth and personal achievement.
- They will only associate with people who can be beneficial for their business or personal strength.
- backbiting or spread the rumors. ★★★
- Enjoy of Other’s Misfortune★★★
They feel good when they see misfortunate happening. They seem to delight in misfortune or bad news of people around them.
- One of the surest signs is that you just don’t feel comfortable around them.
- They’d much rather make people apologize for THEIR mistakes. They might talk about an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend who ran from them. They might dismiss the problems with previous relationships and make excuses for themselves.
Ways to Stop Your Anger: Stop being annoyed when you’re being irritated
- Tell yourself: Comparing to death, natural disaster and separation with the loved ones, what irritates you now is but little things.
- Do something and find solutions.
- Shift your focus and utilize your anger as motivation to make a change or walk out your comfort zone or fight for your rights.
- Write it out and let out your negative emotions.
- Liberal Reading
- Watch or listen to something soul-healing or entertaining to make yourself chill down.
- To see if there any likelihood of misunderstanding
Tell yourself: I might be wrong. I might misunderstand or misjudge someone.
▲Satan’s Attack on the Bible
“Nothing on earth is more powerful than the Holy Spirit flowing through the faith of a born again disciple of Jesus (1 John 5:4). Nothing. It is the greatest superpower available to anyone anywhere […] The only thing Satan’s forces fear more than the vibrant faith of a Christian is the unified, collaborative, vibrant faith of a community of Christians. But we do have one vulnerability: unbelief […] And Satan knows this very well […] Therefore, Satan’s primary goal in the thousands of his various attacks on us is to take down our faith. His primary goal against the church is to fragment the formidable force of united faith and isolate believers, weakening the church and making individuals more vulnerable (Hebrews 3:12–13, 10:25)….If Satan can weaken our faith, he can immobilize us […] When I find myself sinking, it’s always evidence of unbelief […] God will answer. But since he usually is doing more in us and through us than we are aware of, we must trust him. Remain steadfast in prayer until the answer comes” Jon bloom, Satan’s Favorite Weapon Against You
Peter 5:8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. the devil prowls around.
Genesis 4:7 If you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door. Rule over it.
The difficulties we face originate from one of three sources. Some are sent to us by the Lord to test our faith, others are the result of Satan’s attacks, and still others are due to our own sinful choices. -Charles Stanley
The forces of evil: fight against Satan’s attack
The purpose of Satan is to break your faith and leads you far away from God. It is said that Satan is characterized by jealousy that he aims to tempt you into believing the wrong things or even doing the wrong things. He can’t bear seeing people take God’s grace and blessing. He wants to turn you into the same pathetic miserable sorts.
1 Peter 5:8-9
Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.
Be alert that the devil is always waiting for his chance to take advantage of your weaknesses. There are others like you, being tested, being tempted. Win this fight for the Lord.
God is the ultimate source of strength. Be confident enough to seek God’s help and advices.
2 Chronicles 20:15
This is what the Lord says to you: ‘Do not be afraid or discouraged.’ There are times we doubt or second guess ourselves when faced with tests and challenges. Self-doubt happens when the devil attacks us. Satan aims to destroy your faith and take you to hell.
God is willing to provide a shield for protection. Fully Submit yourselves to God. God cannot help you if you go into this half-hearted.