Tips to Manage and Shake Off Your Negative Emotions
The researchers found that youth who are poor at differentiating their negative emotions are more susceptible to depressive symptoms following a stressful life event.
More than half of Americans go through a traumatic event at least once in their lives. Trauma is extremely common that everyone experiences feelings of being devalued or being badly judged or something alike. Signs of trauma vary from person to person. Some people might experience overwhelming emotions or some might feel numb and fail to experience pleasure and pain due to mental wounds. It’s worth noting that teens bring a surge in depression rates, which potentially lead to poor physical health and substance abuse.Depression ranks among the most challenging public health problems worldwide. Recurring negative emotions has more to do with unduly desires or trauma.
Trauma heals with unconditional love and self-love. Never stigmatize any life experience.
Don’t make any life-altering decisions when you are wrapped by negative emotions. Sometimes, you deserved to get angry. But the cost is too high. Set a deadline to your anger out of humility, self-love and self-protection. When we get mad, we are more likely to be mean and make regretful irreversible decisions and we might even hurt our beloved ones.
Tips to Control Anger
Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor found that anger triggers a physical reaction which only lasts 90 seconds. In a sense, after the first 90 seconds, your rationality comes back. He says, “If I remain angry after those 90 seconds have passed, it’s because I have chosen to let that circuit run.”(Reference: Book, A Stroke of Insight, Neuroscientist and stroke survivor)
Anger & Tragedy: Set a Deadline to Your Anger
Anger & tragedy come hand in hand. How to direct our anger when we get mad? As I get angry or upset, I tell myself that it’s God’s test or it’s Satan’s trick. I do not want to disappoint God and I don’t want to lose my battle to Satan either. Anger consumes your energy. Anger sabotages your judgment and productivity. Anger accumulate stress. People undervalue the cost of unforgiveness, which potentially leads to chronic stress and illness. Practice tenderness, compassion and rationality on a daily basis.
Watch Your Negative Emotions, It’s Satan’s Attack….
“ You wonder why it’s so hard to find some peace of mind?… The devil doesn’t want us to think clearly about sin. He keeps things vague so that he can imprison and disarm us […] Watch your emotions […] Moods don’t come out of nowhere. When we are angry, discouraged, depressed, anxious, self-pitying, fearful, or irritable, it is likely because we are believing something very specific” Jon bloom, Where Satan Will Attack You Today
7 Tips to Forgiveness
- Minimize your own suffering and loss. You feel terrible when you believe that you lose something valuable. When you believe that you lose nothing or you lose something or someone insignificant, it will be much easier for you to practice forgiveness out of self-love.
- The more conscious of our own flaws and past errors, the easier to practice forgiveness. Have we misjudged anyone? Do we say mean words when we get irritated? Are we being impatient to the ones who love us? Do we spread unverified rumors?
- Practice Compassion Meditation: Focus on the pain of others instead of focusing on your own pain. Envision the grievance of everyone around you. Everyone has their hard lessons in life. People want to be envied and they hide tears from you.
- Focus on the good things in life and the memories of being loved. Note down all your luck, blessings, strength and talents with a gratitude journal. Note down the ones you want to protect. It will help boost your mental strength.
- You can’t let go of bad memories because you have the desire to accuse something or someone. Thus, either expose the wickedness of the wicked or let go of the desire to accuse the one who hurt you.
- Believe in God’s justice. Take advice from the Bible. The Bible says God will repay the deeds. Thus, “keep no record of the wrongs” and “leave room for God’s wrath” (1 Peter 4: 8; Romans 12:18-19).
- Repentance of the seven deadly sins: Anger is one of the seven deadly sins.
Psychology on Forgiveness
Psychologists define forgiveness as a conscious decision to release anger, hatred or bitterness toward someone or something.
Anger stops you from having a wonderful life you deserve. You have a choice to be trapped by the wrongdoing of others for a lifetime or not. Uproot others’ influence on you for your own good. Understand your responsibility for your emotions. Forgiveness shows that you are too strong to be offended or attacked.
As you overly value what people say about you, you tend to believe what people say about you without questioning and you make yourself a fool without awareness. I was one of the fools. I came to understand it was vanity that made me a fool. Vanity has more to do with the desire to be envied.
Tips to Manage and Control Your Anger
１．Do not say anything as you are irritated. Anger will destroy your rationality and sabotages your ability to feel beloved. By being angry, you might find yourself swallowed up by a negative self. Anger stops us from thinking clearly. You’d better not express your thoughts or make any big decisions when your anger escalates. As we say something mean, we hurt others unconsciously.
２．Leave the spot. Go for a brisk walk or promise to deal with the issue after both parties chilling down.
３．Focus on the solutions. Criticizing or placing blame on anyone can only make the situation worse. By labeling yourself a victim can’t do you any good.
４．Prepare a gratitude journal. Forgive someone out of self-love and compassion in saying “I forgive you.”
５．Everyone makes mistakes. When we make mistakes, we desire to be forgiven.
６．Take traumatic events as the training from God.
Trust me. If you are being tender, compassionate and righteous during the hard times, you pass the course from God. Earn approval and rewards from God.
７．Avoid sarcasm and blaming. It only makes things worse and do you no good. Satan will be attracted by negative emotions.