Wise Library 1985/ Margaret W. Lavigne
Turn Trauma into Post-Traumatic Growth
I would say, turn your wounds into courage and responsibilities to the world. When you fix your mind on the idea of survival, you would consider your situation as being saved and blessed. You will be grateful for being a survivor. Identify your life troubles as a hint of your future responsibility to the world.
Fix your mind on the idea of survival & responsibilities
Your life can’t be defined by a certain event. Everyone will have hard lessons in life, which is verified by the Bible, including the chosen ones. According to the Bible, there will be challenges and trails for everyone. It’s a commonplace thing that people go through distress and confusion in life. It’s reasonable that people try to understand why bad things happen or why terrible things happen.
According to the Bible, everyone will experience life troubles and trials. Life troubles occur to train our spirit and character. Trials occur to test your faith before God decides whether to render the admission ticket of heaven to you.
Research About Post-traumatic Growth
According to the Post-Traumatic Growth Research Group at UNC Charlotte, “new opportunities have emerged from the struggle, opening up possibilities that were not present before.”
IT’S YOUR MISSION …
Trauma exists not because of the event itself, it’s social prejudice that creates trauma on earth. FIND A POSITIVE MEANING BEHIND A TRAUMATIC EVENT. That’s the antidote. Life can be beautiful without perfection. Evidently, God sees thing differently from human beings.
Trauma→ Self-Awakening & Rebirth
A traumatic event usually forces us to conquer our biggest fears in life. Generally, people learn to put public eye behind after experiencing a traumatic event in life. Those who overcome unbearable life troubles in life secure higher mental strength to deal with frustration, disappointment, loss, pain and betrayals for the rest of their life. I would say, those who live through a traumatic event will earn the confidence that “If I am able to live through that, I am able to deal with other relatively trivial troubles in life for sure.”
People come to realize that if they can overcome something terrifying, there’s nothing to fear anymore. Consequently, the inner strength comes into being. The inner voices say “if I lived through that, I can handle anything.”
Posttraumatic growth refers to positive and usually dramatic personality change, such as self-awakening, after experiencing traumatic life events. Surviving over a severe trauma does represent a second chance to rebuild a person’s life, which usually titled rebirth. People will be more conscious of time and life purposes. They might transform their former life values. They will guard their principle better than before with higher self-discipline and self-respect. It’s a commonplace thing that people channel their pain by putting themselves fully into work, studies or certain ㄏharitable activities. No suffering, no change and no huge personal growth.
Research About Post-traumatic Growth
Posttraumatic growth was found to be associated with greater agreeableness, openness, and extraversion.
A growing body of research proves that the greatest challenges in life become the turning point for people to build deeper, more meaningful lives. There are many true stories that witness the so-called post-traumatic growth that people grow to be stronger and build a more meaningful life in the wake of disturbing tragedy or trauma. They bounce higher than they ever did before in significant profound ways. They reprioritize what really matters in life. A life crisis often transforms people in positive ways if they do not torture themselves out of negative emotions, such as anger, sorrow, depression, self-denial or self-hatred. Lawrence says. “Out of loss there is often gain.” Some people discover a sense of mission after tragedy strikes.
Psychologist Anna A. Berardi, Ph.D., says “ If you ask people, “Have you been through something difficult and come out the other side stronger, wiser and more compassionate?” the majority of us would answer yes. That’s powerful proof that as humans we’re wired to grow as a result of hardship.”
PTG witnessed trauma’s potential to transform people’s future in positive and more meaningful ways. Christopher Reeve, the actor who played another superhero, was left a quadriplegic by an accident, he once suffered and considered suicide. he became a powerful advocate for people with spinal cord injuries. The Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation has awarded more than $81 million to researchers working on a cure for paralysis.
Growth After Trauma Is Possible
Whether people can utilize a traumatic experience to improve their future lives? As we go through suffering or any traumatic events in life, we learn the chance to witness unconditional love and that’s why some people build stronger connections in hard times and shine. For those who do not have strong mental support from people around them, they might fall and they might suffer more and longer.
Again, it’s social prejudice that hurt. In most cases, trauma exists not because of the traumatic event itself. With unconditional love, people can grow in positive ways following trauma, to be stronger, wiser and even happier than they were before. They stop seeking approval from the crowd and stop being trapped by the public eye. More Info: CNN｜ Post-traumatic growth: With support, some traumas can help us grow
“It’s a very bad thing for a woman to face the worst that can happen to her because after she’s faced the worst, she can’t even really fear anything again.” Inspirational Quotes from Margaret Mitchell, Gone with the Wind
We Fall and We grow
“Be not sweet, or else you’ll be eaten. Be not bitter, or else you’ll be spat out.” Inspirational Quotes from Jewish Proverbs
Anyone Can Be a Fool in Love
Forgive yourself for being a fool in love. Forgive yourself for giving your full trust to someone who is not worth it. Be proud of yourself for ending an unhealthy, toxic or even abusive relationship with courage.
Charlotte Lucas: We are all fools in love. ― Film, Pride and Prejudice
“Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghost of yesterday. ”－ Steve Maraboli
Be compassionate and be tender to those who are suffering even if you fail to offer any help. Without any frustration in life, we might be prideful and arrogant. Life troubles teach us to be humble and be compassionate to others’ suffering.
Signs of Post-Traumatic Growth
- Humility
- Appreciation and gratitude of life.
- Closer and deeper relationships with others.
- New possibilities and responsibilities in life.
- Stronger mental strength
- Spiritual change & faith
Never Stigmatize Life Challenges
How to stay positive when bad things happen? Take life troubles as life challenges for personal awakening and personal growth. Never stigmatize life challenges as life troubles or God’s punishment if you don’t deserve it. Chances are, life troubles may act as God’s grace to lead people on the right track. Indeed, it takes time to figure out blessings in life.
Helen Keller once said, “Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.” ‘t’s always true that a person’s confidence and inner strength grow as he/she combats great life troubles in life.
Challenges & Trials Are Inevitable
Life challenges are inevitable for everyone. It’s just people hide tears from you. We tend to identify our self-worth through the evaluation of others. That’s the problem. The majority can be fooled. We are living in a world where is rife with greed, pride, discrimination, pride, and lust. That fully explains why the route “leads to destruction” is wide and broad and the road that leads to heaven is small and narrow (Matthew 7:13–14). Evidently, we are “among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing” (2 Corinthians 2:15-16).
Every cloud has a silver lining. For instance, those who end an unhealthy, toxic or abusive relationship earn the courage and determination to build a better and meaningful life for the next decades. Further, divorce stigma can be identified as an amulet for divorced women to eliminate men who are narrow-minded without compassion, understanding and empathy.
