Holding Hatred at Heart: Failing to Forgive Sabotages Your Health
The Cost of Unforgiveness
Failing to forgive would make a person persistently ruminating negative thoughts of anger, complains and resentment without awareness, leading to increased anxiety, depression, early aging and chronic illness. It’s worth nothing that failing to forgive worsens our immune system.
Unforgiveness promises chronic illness undue burden in interpersonal relationships. When we stop blaming anyone and stop holding anger against anything, we become less anxious and our body will energized. By letting go of our anger, we strengthen our immune system and secure true inner peace.
Unforgiveness and Prolonged Negative Emotion
Failing to forgive sustains negative emotions such as bitterness, hostility, hatred toward a transgressor or abuser and create chronic stress.
Unforgiveness and Stress response It’s common that we get furious at wrongdoing. Nevertheless, those who are dread of making conflicts with others suppress their anger without expressing their negative emotions and inner thoughts. There’s a strong link between suppressed anger and chronic illness. People who are being devalued or bullied tend to regain a sense of control and that’s why stress occurs.
Being furious changes noting but our inner self.
Being resentful hurts no one nor our enemies but ourselves.
Being resentful brings out the best version of ourselves.
Believe in God’s justice and set yourself free.
The Benefits of Forgiveness
1.To err is human, to forgive divine.
If you fail to practice forgiveness, you can never shake off negative emotions. And you will never have true inner peace or sound sleep. Forgiveness means you understand the vulnerablities of human beings.
2.Forgive others out of self love.
3. Repentance of the seven deadly sins does help us to become more forgiving.
Margaret W. Lavigne
Forgiveness proved to improve mental and physical health
Everett Worthington, PhD, had been studying forgiveness for nearly a decade. His mother was murdered due to home invasion. The perpetrator was never prosecuted. There was no justice. Worthington was able to forgive the young man quite quickly. Forgiveness took years of practice, he says “I had a professor in grad school that gave me a B, and it took me 10 years to forgive that guy.”
Suppressed Anger is Toxic
Loren Toussaint, PhD, a professor of psychology at Luther College, in Decorah, Iowa, claims that nearly everyone “benefit from being more forgiving.” Toussaint suggests that “Forgiveness allows you to let go of the chronic interpersonal stressors that cause us undue burden.”Research has shown that forgiveness is linked to reduced anxiety, stress relief, depression and major psychiatric disorders, fewer physical health symptoms and lower mortality rates.
Forgiveness Does Not Require Reconciliation
Forgiveness does not encourage you to resuming an unhealthy or abusive relationship. Worthington believes that a former victim of abuse shouldn’t reconcile with an abuser who is potentially dangerous.
Compassion and Understanding
Those who hurt us are probably the angry wounded souls. Offering empathy, compassion, understanding toward the person who hurt you might leads to true forgiveness. Forgiveness and unforgiving nature might develop into a personality trait. Forgiveness is internal process of letting go of bad feelings and negative thoughts, such as suppressed anger, resentment, bitterness, and the desire for vengeance when someone has wronged us or devalue us.
What I learn from life, as I get more satisfied with myself and my life, I tend to be more tolerant. As I am getting more aware of my flaws and past errors, I tend to be more forgiving.
Forgiveness can be generated out of compassion. Anger is absolutely destructive to our mind and health. Do not ruin every minute of the future for the bad things in the past.
Inspirational Quotes from the Bible on Forgiveness
#1 “If anyone of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.”－ John 8:7 NIV
We make errors and we seek forgiveness from others too.
“Forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”－Colossians 3:13 NIV
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.”－Ephesians 4:31-32 NIV
“If you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”－ Matthew 6:14-15 NIV
# 2 Watch your Negative emotions, It’s Satan’s Attack
“ You wonder why it’s so hard to find some peace of mind[…]The devil doesn’t want us to think clearly about sin. He keeps things vague so that he can imprison and disarm us […] Watch your emotions […] Moods don’t come out of nowhere. When we are angry, discouraged, depressed, anxious, self-pitying, fearful, or irritable, it is likely because we are believing something very specific” Jon bloom, Where Satan Will Attack You Today
“The only thing Satan’s forces fear more than the vibrant faith of a Christian is the unified, collaborative, vibrant faith of a community of Christians. But we do have one vulnerability: unbelief […] And Satan knows this very well […] Therefore, Satan’s primary goal in the thousands of his various attacks on us is to take down our faith […] When I find myself sinking, it’s always evidence of unbelief.” Jon bloom, Where Satan Will Attack You Today
“ Hostility is not from God, bitterness, unforgiveness, all of these are attacks from Satan.”- Charles Stanley
#3 “If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents forgive him.”－ Luke 17:3-4 NIV
#rebuke: express sharp disapproval or criticism of someone.
“When they came to a place called the Skull, there they crucified him, along with the criminals –one on his right, the other on his left, Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”－ Luke 23:33-34 NIV
“Love is patient, love is kind […] it keeps no record of wrongs.＂－1 Corinthians 13:4 – 6 NIV
#4 Forgive others. Do not judge nor condemn them.
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”－ Luke 6:37 NIV
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