The Clear-Cut Answer to Whether Men and Women Be “Just Friends”
You might treat your friends of the opposite without any sexual desires. But, he or she might harbor hidden affection to you and you never know until they confess their love. I would say , the strongest valid friendship between men and women are intertwined with love and affection. It is true that women tend to keep male friends because they are more attentive and generous than their female friends.
To maintain a friendship between men and women, it demands the consensus from both parties. When one party is drawn to the other sexually, the friendship between men and women is not pure any more and it happens all the time, especially to women who is more feminine and to men who is more masculine.
It is difficult for the relationship between men and women to be totally platonic and it lasts only when “both parties” are not drawn to the other sexually. In reality, the likelihood that one party is drawn to the other sexually is very high, regardless of confession or not.
For instance, when you are drown to someone, you tend to interpret any of his/her behaviors as hints or signs of affection, or the chance to develop the relationship into a love relationship, even a common normal greeting.
It’s good to have male friends because they might see things differently from women. Generally, women tend to gossip more about others’ love life and fashion and men don’t.
I was the one who tended to maintain platonic relationships between friends of the opposite. What I learn from life, it’s not happening. I have been confessed by many of my friends of the opposite and the percentage turned out to higher than 80%. I offered friendship and they expected love from me.
I set boundaries with my male friends. I never share food or drinks with male friends nor have any body contact with my male friends, never. I stick to the rules. Evidently, It doesn’t matter what my attitude is. I am feminine in voice, appearance and etiquette. I am sensitive and I am attentive to details and people’s emotions.Nowadays, I tend to accept that I can’t have a friendship with men due to my femininity. I come to accept that I am popular among men, which somehow deprive my chances to build a friendship with men.
Altogether, I firmly believe that men are less likely to maintain friendship with women who have strong femininity. Men tend to have sexual desires for women who have strong femininity and that’s why they tend to transform friendship into sexual or romantic friendship.
Friendship builds a strong foundation of a love relationship. In other words, a love relationship without the foundation of friendship is more shaky. It’s a wise way to befriend with someone you love before dating and see if you guys are in compatible in many ways. Generally, people rush into a love relationship when they are desperately lonely or helpless, consciously or not. Those who are doing well with their lives and those who are not dread of solitude do not rush into a love relationship. They would rather take time to develop a relationship patiently.
▲Generally, men do not believe in friendship between men and women. A man might be content with having a friendship between a woman, but he will have desires for her.
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Margaret W. Lavigne