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尋常孩子常犯之影響親子關係的「6大NG行為」

近年來很多電視劇都在檢討父母常犯的NG行為,小編司馬儀過去也寫過相關題目,但平衡報導是很重要的!你對孝順子女的想像或定義是什麼?是聽話和絕對的服從嗎?定義孝順很難,但以下統整出尋常子女常犯之影響親子關係的6大NG行為。

 

1. 把父母當超人或許願池,要求無限上綱

=父母真的沒有那麼多責任義務

 

2. 只看見父母做不好的地方

=身為子女或父母,雙方肯定無法做到絕對的盡善盡美(除非有某一方永遠永遠地退讓或犧牲自己的需求),其實父母也非常需要孩子們的肯定,特別是擁抱!

 

3. 過度依賴父母,無法做決定

其實可能暗示自己缺乏承擔錯誤的能力和勇氣!把過錯或責任推給旁人,確實輕鬆,但那是錯的!

 

4. 缺乏傾聽的意願=缺乏深入了解的動力

如果我們愛一個人,我們需要學會傾聽,而柔軟的語氣比較能讓人感受到愛!看見太多懊悔或內疚的眼淚,現在養寵物的人們很多,只想說:把我們照顧寵物的耐心和包容,分一些給父母吧!擁抱要及時!

 

致希望改善親子關係的人們:根據我的個人經驗和觀察,要改善親子關係,雙方表達能力和溝通能力的提升非常關鍵!若彼此都不擅長表達,那麼,辦法就是一起相約去上溝通課程!如果父母就是不願意去上課呢?先斬後奏是一個辦法,已經繳費了,父母親不願意浪費學費,自然就會願意去上課了…XD

 

 

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