__成了世代集體症狀,人們不懼怕失敗,而是______太傷人

伊莉莎白《慶祝失敗》摘要

的好友吉姆在一九六○年代的美國是民權律師,他願意接下毫無勝算的案子,只因為這在道德層面上是正確的事。最近他感到很洩氣,因為他指導的新進律師不敢接手勝訴機率不是百分之百的案件….

 

然而,吉姆的學生們所屬的時代,卻是把失敗視為終點,而不是通往更高成就的必經過程…當「成功」被視為眾人共同渴望的那一刻起,羞愧感也成了集體症狀。這也難怪吉姆的學生充滿無力感,難怪我們總是羞於承認自己的錯誤或不明智的決定…「失敗」是我們所有人在人生某些階段,不得不經歷的關卡….為大多數人都經歷過相同的情況,也擔心這些經驗會害我們被貼上負面標籤

 

伊莉莎白《慶祝失敗》摘要

我們生活在一個建構完美形象的時代…不過,改變逐漸開始出現:現在社群媒體上比較容易找到願意公開討論自身困境的名人…..

 

伊莉莎白《慶祝失敗》摘要

在《觀察家報》(The Observer)擔任專題撰稿人的八年期間,我遭受過各式各樣的言語攻擊….如果我犯了一點小錯,就會有大量的譴責留言馬上湧入,儘管我也只是個凡人而已,而且有時候為了趕上截稿期限,有些錯誤就這樣被忽略,連助理編輯也沒發現。當然,我有查證事實的責任,所有記者都應該這麼做,但是和錯誤的嚴重程度相比,這些負面反應實在是強烈得不成比例。但這樣的氛圍之下,嘗試新事物或冒險變得越來越困難,只因為懼怕大眾會立刻反彈。

 

《慶祝失敗》摘要

這麼多人對這個主題產生共鳴,如此優雅地體現出美國歌手亞瑟.拉塞爾(Arthur Russell)在〈愛回來〉(Love Comes Back,暫譯)副歌所唱的「being sad is not a crime」(悲傷並不是罪)那樣:失敗所蘊含的意義,遠大於直截了當的成功…

 

註釋
1 Podcast是一種數位媒體,泛指一系列以音檔、影片、電台或文字檔以列表形式經由網路發布,聽眾可透過各類型的電子裝置訂閱下載檔案的傳播形式。
2 出生於一九五八年,知名心理治療師及作家,作品《情欲徒刑》(Mating in Captivity)翻譯逾二十六種語言。
3 簡稱IG,是免費提供圖片及視訊的社交應用軟體。
4 網際網路的資料標籤類型之一,由一個「#」連接上一個詞或單字或一句話而形成,廣泛被使用在社群網站的貼文中,已於二○一四年六月列入牛津英語詞典。
5 出生於一九五三年,英國記者、小說家。
6 出生於一九八五年,英國女演員、劇作家、製片人和編劇。曾獲英國電視學院獎喜劇類最佳女主角以及多座艾美獎。
7 出生於一九六九年,美國作家,由於出版作品為回憶錄卻被發現內容有誇大捏造之嫌而引發爭議。

 

書籍資訊

《慶祝失敗》

原書名:How to fail: Everything I’ve Ever Learned From Things Going Wrong

伊莉莎白.德依 Elizabeth Day
個人成長 | 大好書屋 | 2020/1/3出版

 

 司馬儀觀後感:人們不懼怕失敗,而是懼怕負面標籤

 

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