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泛心理學|自我否定不是天生的,不夠愛自己的人無法相信…

撰稿人:司馬儀

 

自我否定當然不是天生的

最初是別人對你丟石頭,最後你學會用別人對待自己的方式,開始對自己丟石頭,開始不那麼欣賞自己。那表示你從別人眼裡去看待你的價值,或者你因為別人對你的看法,而開始質疑了你眼裡那個原本喜歡的自己。所以,自我否定,當然是一種傷口的暗示。

 

自我否定,代表你基於某一個或某些理由無法肯定自己欣賞自己。一個人,若對自己的觀感常處於自我否定的狀態,一定會焦慮會不安,會毫無理由地失落或泛憂鬱,會對外尋找愛和肯定,也就容易失去自己

累積好的經驗,累積對自己的好感度

增加自信心,光看心靈雞湯效果可能有限。去看看自己的弱點究竟是什麼,好好克服比較有用。我會相信缺乏自信都是傷口的暗示….懂得愛自已尊重自己的人,必然懂得保護自己,必然會堅守原則,必然在與人相處時有一個不可逾越的底線。

 

當你能好好愛自己,你才有能力學會淘汰不適合你的伴侶和朋友當你能對自己的缺點或弱點或缺憾一笑置之,你才能真正輕鬆真正舒坦。

 

不夠愛自己,所以不重視自己….

不重視自己的人,很容易在親密關係或友情裡面漠視自己的感覺和需求,甚至無視自己的委屈或疲憊。懂得愛自己的人,不會任由別人隨便敷衍的對待,而自信缺氧的人,更容易在錯愛裡待上更長時間,甚至是一輩子

 

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