【厭世女兒】推薦序摘要|「我夠好了嗎?」

厭世的養成,或許在於這個世界根本不值得愛。最親近的母親「似乎」不斷傷害自己,要長大後才真的能確認被傷害了……..「好像」最愛自己的父親,竟然丟下一切自殺了……..少數如厭世姬一般求生意志強烈的聰明孩子,才得以在層層否定中長大且沒有長歪,巨細靡遺吞吐每一吋記憶,終能問出:我夠好了嗎?有沒有可能,不夠好的,是你呢?」

 

華人界裡比性更難啟齒的自白大概是,爸媽,我沒那麼愛你。過往書寫父母,大抵是朱自清「背影」的套路:平平常常的一天,平平常常冷淡的父母,突然看到父母慈祥和藹做了某事,體會到父母愛如山,立誓要好好孝順父母。我們都知道父母的面向不止如此,卻少有真實的親子書寫,直到前幾年佐野洋子的散文、幾本談論母女糾葛的社普出版,極難啟齒的面向才終於有點滴討論。

 

我們需要《厭世女兒》的誠實,篇篇見骨,對抗氾濫到面目模糊的「孝順」、「母愛」、「和解」,各種慘痛貼膚的實例,勾起各種你想忘記的回憶,體認到父母也只是普通人的那刻,好像有什麼可以放下了。

 

 

※ 以上閱讀筆記摘要出自書籍【厭世女兒推薦序摘要】 文/簡莉穎(劇作家)

書名:厭世女兒  

作者:厭世姬

勵志故事 | 大塊文化 | 2019/5/24出版

 

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