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閱讀筆記:大腦對「負面信號」要比「正面信號」更敏感….

為什麼有些人容易生氣?
我會說生氣是一種受傷的情緒,但為什麼有些人容易生氣,或無故生氣?據心理師胡展誥(2017)的說法,生氣只是假面的「表層情緒」,底下可能潛藏著「自卑、被誤會、不被接納、恐懼、害怕、脆弱」等複雜情緒。所以愛生氣的人,必然是個內心脆弱的人。

 

日本精神科醫師西多昌規(2017)的說法,生氣很可能是因為被踩到痛點,或者事發之前已經忍耐很久了,而事件本身只是一個導火線。

 

延伸議題:Dollard 等人(1939)提出「挫折—攻擊」假說(Frustration-Aggression Hypothesis)。


閱讀筆記《憤怒也好,生氣也可以》佳句摘錄
令人感到意外地,即便擁有很多的人,卻還是會因為缺少那麼一項,而羨慕別人到很痛苦的程度 [….] 眼中看不到自己的成就以及所擁有的一切,只看得到自己缺少的東西。

 

 

閱讀筆記《憤怒也好,生氣也可以》佳句摘錄

大腦對「負面信號」要比「正面信號」更敏感。……就算是微小的危險信號,我們大腦都會響起警報。因此我們對於別人的批評、攻擊都相當敏感。

 

閱讀筆記《憤怒也好,生氣也可以》佳句摘錄

十五秒是消除憤怒的黃金時間…..生氣時做出的判斷很容易大大地脫離正軌。控制憤怒最好方法是在受刺激時與做出反應之間留下時間,做出行動前先暫時停下來,必須在受刺激到做出反應之間擠出緩衝地帶。在這空間裡培養可以選擇出適當應對方式的能力與自由…讓興奮靜下來的最好方法是深呼吸 [….] 只要忍住十五秒的話,便能控制住大火

 

閱讀筆記《憤怒也好,生氣也可以》佳句摘錄

請試著分析對方是否有值得你去在意的價值……如果把浪費在那個人身上的力量,而錯過的工作與休閒時間等,換算成錢的話,你應該就會瞬間打起精神的。

 

閱讀筆記《憤怒也好,生氣也可以》佳句摘錄

需要讓羨慕他人的人改變視角….收起只盯著別人看的視線,盡可能看著自己 […] 就好比每個人的外貌、氣質,天生就不一樣,天生的條件和各自的責任也不同 ….請接受社會上每個人的角色與責任皆不同的事實

 

閱讀筆記《憤怒也好,生氣也可以》佳句摘錄
心理學家羅爾夫.豪伯(Rolf Haubl)將人類感到嫉妒時,出現的反應分成憤怒、沮喪與野心。「充滿憤怒的嫉妒」不只會啃食對方,也會吞噬自己,是所有反應中最不健康的。外當自己沒有,卻又認同對方正當地擁有自己羨慕的東西時,人會出現沮喪的反應

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