★《為何我們總是如此不安?》「讓你感到畏縮的事物,正是你內心真正想追求的事物。」

你的決定,是因為恐懼還是因為愛?

很多人患得患失,因為他們的在乎伴隨恐懼。你的每一個決定,是因為恐懼還是因為愛?不安,是基於恐懼或是愛?關係裡的患得患失,只要把恐懼換成愛,好像就能解套了。

 

之所以會有恐懼,在乎的主體是自己,attention 聚焦於對方的去留或愛意的多寡,處於被動的狀態,很容易會變成索愛者,但給予者的身分,就能變成給予者或照顧者了,只希望對方過得好就夠了,抱著這樣的想法,或許某種程度能解決不安或患得患失的問題。


這篇閱讀筆記的書名是《為何我們總是如此不安?》,作者是加藤諦三 。整體說,書裡有很多細膩的見解值得分享。

適用對象:習慣對自己嚴苛、對自身帶有高標的完美主義、容易不安惶恐缺乏安全感的人類。


以下分享書中的名言佳句摘錄

1.「我記得歌德說過:與其抱著要對方感激的心態,施捨給別人十萬塊,不如慷慨無私地給一萬塊來的痛快!」

 

2.「讓你感到畏縮的事物,正是你內心真正想追求的事物。」

司馬儀:這句話如同醍醐灌頂當頭棒喝。因為在乎才會膽戰心驚。

 

3.「不要習慣性的把別人的言行舉止,分類放進自己內心那個既定的框架中,不是每個人每件事都和你想的一樣。」quote from page 16

司馬儀:我們不可能猜透別人的心理,猜對猜錯都不會有答案,甚至對方也不一定由衷知道自己內心想法。

 

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