Colossians 3:19 ESV
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
What Does the Bible Say About Verbal Abuse?
Matthew 12:36-37 ESV
I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.
1 Corinthians 13:1-13 ESV
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful …
What does the Bible Say About Abusive Marriage?
Bible is often misused by the abusers and those who are void of empathy in what it says about divorce. God’s “soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence” (Psalm 11:5). It’s against God’s will to see anyone live in abuse or be controlled by an abuser. Abuse is a learned behavior, there’s no instant cure for that. In 2007 in the United States, 14% of homicides were caused by the violence of intimate partner and 70% of deaths were females.
According to the Bible’s instruction, “For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive…ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness but denying its power. Avoid such people” (2 Timothy 3:1-8).
In 1 Corinthians 7:15, it renders a key argument that it’s not “Who walked out?” but “Who caused the separation?” should take the blame.
Any union with any forms of abuse are an unsanctified union. God’s design of marriage places the husband as the wife’s equal partner and protector, not her dictator. According to God’s will, a husband should live with his wife “in an understanding way” and “showing honor” to his wife “as the weaker vessel,” since his wife is heir with him “of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7). Without respect, without love. Any kind of bullying or abuse does not coexist with love.