《Time》心理醫師背書的九大單身優點…..

|Wise Library 1985 |司馬儀

 

成人世界裡面喜歡醜化單身狀態,但多數人的中學時代戀愛比例低,難道他們戀愛以前的人生都是黑白的?

 

《Time》心理醫師Niloo Dardashti背書的九大單身優點,當中提到,單身的狀態沒有人可以阻礙你內心追逐的雄心壯志,也不會再因為另一半而踟躕猶豫,「更有可能冒險。…更能讓你追求自己嚮往的目標和夢想。」Niloo Dardashti 提到人們常常在一段關係中迷失自我,停止了獨立思考(通常是因為太希望愛情順利,所以用力配合妥協讓步)。心理醫師珍Jenny Taitz 則說單身更能夠有時間弄清楚自己想要過什麼樣生活。心理醫師Andrea Syrtash則分享,當你單身,因為不用買禮物、不用負擔額外的餐敘開銷,所以更容易儲蓄(戀愛是很燒錢的)。

 

心理醫生強調人們容易因為感情而稍微疏遠朋友、因為熱戀而忘了關心家人等!心理醫師強調,自信不是與生俱來的,是靠著自我認同、對人生肯定而培養出來的。

 

不知道是誰幫幸福寫了一個公式…. 人們開始奉那套公式為圭臬,毫不懷疑

 

找伴容易,不挑會出事,急就容易出錯

很多單身者都有過年被親友追問感標籤情事或關心感情狀態的經驗。把單身過好的人,相對更容易把愛情處理好。婚不婚並不重要,只要他是Mr. Right,不論戀愛或結婚,都是幸福的道路,他都會是守護你的人。同樣的,他若是專情障礙症又同時是說謊把說謊當呼吸的Mr. Wrong,不論戀愛或結婚,都是與惡魔共舞的道路。

 

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辯論題目|做人好難,陳述糟糕的人事物,說實話,等於說壞話?

成長必修學分|《蔡康永的情商課:為你自己活一次》心得和佳句摘錄「在曾經活過的各種我當中,活得最自在的那個我」

social phobia(社交恐懼)人際過敏症:對人類過敏|Jolin Tsai「我想那是渴望認同的同時也恐懼社交」

 

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Margaret W. Lavigne 司馬儀

Life can be beautiful without perfection. There’s a strong link between unconditional love and posttraumatic growth. In truth, people can only witness unconditional love in hard times. If you believe in luck or miracles, be aware of the seven deadly sins and the power of tenderness. According to the Bible, no one will be exempt from life challenges, including the chosen ones (1 Peter 1:3-9). God expects us to stay hopeful and “rejoice in our sufferings,” because “trials of various kinds” are training to make us “perfect and complete” (Romans 5:3-6, James 1:1-27). It’s comforting to know that “God promises to make something good out of the storm” (Roman 8: 28). We fall and we learn. As we learn to humble ourselves, life gets better. The connection between the brain and stomach is bidirectional. Excessive sugar intake and chronic stress sabotage our immune system that 70% to 80% of our immunity hinges on our gut health. Memory loss and cognitive impairment are common symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease, all of which are highly connected to type 2 diabetes. Early signs of type 2 diabetes include chronic fatigue, irritability, frequent urination, vision problems and slow wound healing. Depression is prevalent in people with diabetes due to the fact that diabetes causes “structural changes in the brain.” Muscle-building helps regulate blood sugar levels. There is growing evidence that high blood sugar leads to reduced muscle mass. Beyond that, there’s a strong link between sleep deprivation and emotional weakness People suffer from suppressed anger. God is watching our every move. God sees through our motives. Mental health crisis is sweeping on a global scale because the core value of capitalism is incompatible with what human truly needs. Money cannot purchase inner peace. Wealth incurs fair-weather friends, frenemies and snobs. Inner peace is the utmost blessing from God. Take time to deal with your old mental wounds. 佛教主張因果論,而 Bible主張人生必有難題(不論好人壞人),主張磨練都是鍛鍊心智,但災難的背後會有禮物(禍福相依,壞消息可能是跳板,好消息處理不當就變成頭痛點)!Bible主張人生只有一回,沒有前世今生!人生會有很多上蒼的隨堂考,氣生災,如果你相信成功需要幸運,把「柔」做好,就可以賺福氣,Bible強調自律、謙卑和禍從口出。潛意識24小時不睡覺,中醫主張生悶氣、恐懼和悲觀是疾病的根源。很多人可能想不到很多老毛病是肩頸僵硬引起的,「因為肩頸僵硬會引發自律神經失調」,而自律神經失調恐引發一大串的毛病!久坐者即便沒有駝背也可能有「坐姿前傾」的問題,建議手臂做180%和90%的拉伸動作,按壓指間穴道也有大助益。健康建議:天芢無糖抹茶牛奶+ 無糖豆漿+鹼性飲食(可提高基礎體溫)+淋巴按摩X 頭皮耳朵穴道按摩+甩手操或拍打功或低耗氧的運動。糖尿病可逆轉!「提高肌肉量」是控制血糖的的關鍵!人們低估了「糖過量」及「過食」對身體的破壞力。國外研究證實阿茲海默症患者「禁糖」可望痊癒!如果遭受暴力(家暴)、性侵或性騷擾或任何身心虐待,撥打113保護專線,24小時全年無休!生活、學業、工作等等情緒困擾,撥打安心專線「1925」。寫信給司馬儀:Gmail: jpsiawase@gmail.com

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