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It’s human to err. There’s arbitrary love. There’s immature love. It’s so common that people offer love in foolish or even childish manners. Misunderstanding and misjudgment are so common. Focus on the motives instead of the ways how people do things.
Stop torturing yourself for making a foolish decision in life. Never blame yourself for being a fool in love. It’s absolutely reasonable and justified to be a fool in love by offering full trust to someone you are deeply in love with. That’s brave and beautiful. However, it’s absolutely a wise decision to end a toxic or unhealthy relationship out of self-love and self-protection. What are the signs of a toxic relationship? Verbal abuse is an evident sign. If you stay much the same before and after dating and your partner compliments you so much before dating and devalues you so much after dating, that’s a toxic relationship.
Minimize Your Loss
By minimizing your commitment, you minimizing your loss, grievance, anger, and sorrow. By doing so, it will be easier for you to walk away from what you suffer. It’s human nature to seek mental dependence. Everyone has hard lessons in life. Pity those who can’t return your love and kindness. They are the suffers. Those who mentally suffer will lose the ability to love and give. Negative emotions will blind a human’s ability t to feel anything positive.
People suffer for believing that no one truly loves them. Habitual beliefs are powerful energy itself, either positive or destructive. You’d better believe that you are unconditionally loved by your loved ones or you will be loved by someone unconditionally for the rest of your life. Life is not fair, but I believe in compensation and it never fails.
It’s Beautiful and Brave to Give Trust in relationships
It’s beautiful and brave to love and to give in relationships. Nobody can stay intact in socializing with others. Life is about learning and becoming a better me. We fall and we grow into a stronger version. According to the Bible, life is about serving and becoming mentally strong through various training in life. Love hurts and love heals. By ending a toxic relationship, you lose nothing. You just learn a lesson. You learn more about love and humanity. By ending or fixing an unhealthy relationship, you will learn to set boundaries and defend your principle.
Quotes About Misunderstanding
Deal with Betrayal
Some people are just passengers in your life. If you do not enclose yourself, you will meet lovely people for the rest of your life for sure. To love, but do not offer your trust too quickly.
If you are fond of yourself, you will not lose yourself due to any misjudgment or mistreatment on earth. The ones who do not cherish your love are the ones who lose a fortune. Again, I believe in compensation and it never fails. I do believe that everyone does receive equal love from the world. If you find yourself are not welcomed by the majority in the group, you must receive bountiful love from someone on earth whether you know it or not.
A broken heart is the best evidence of losing something or someone you care about so much. Separation can be inevitable in various ways. Sometimes we get hurt. Sometimes, we disappoint others consciously or unconsciously. We might say mean words as we get irritated or misjudge others’ words and behaviors by assuming the worst possibilities. We might feel sorry for giving wrong assumptions. WE are desire to be loved. It’s never easy to maintain a stable and healthy relationship.
Another day is another reincarnation. Restart from today. Our minds and thoughts will shape our habits. Our habits will shape our life. Positive thoughts activate self-discipline and energy. The ability to interpret all the happenings with a positive thought will be the best gift you can give to your life. A positive thought or a memory of being loved can save a person from self-doubt, self-denial, and desperation. You are loved for sure if you do not try hard to deny it. Sorrow and anger will push away any loving memories, which is proven by science. As we breathe more loving memories, our brain gets healthier and our life gets easier. As we stick to wounded memories, our brain suffers and our life gets hard.
Our Missions in Life
- to explore and to learn
- to help and to serve
- to fall and to grow
As we focus on what comforts our hearts, life gets better. As we focus on what disappoints us in life, life gets miserable. A thought is a force and energy. Do not underestimate the influence of a single thought. NEVER label yourself as the victim or the weak. NEVER identify any traumatic event as God’s publishment if you do not deserve it. The Bible makes it clear that everyone has and will have hard lessons in life. Hard lessons can be classified into training and trials. Various challenges occur to make us mentally strong. various challenges in life can be identified as a quiz and the trials can be identified as a midterm examination. And our performance during the trials will decide whether we will receive the ticket to heaven.
A thought is a force and energy. Imagine that there are 200000 happenings in your life, some are lovely and some are not. As you try hard to memorize the most touching moments, you invite more touching moments. As you are grateful for your luck every single day, you invite more luck. As you try hard to record heart-breaking moments, you will have more tears. I guarantee. As you believe the world is so dark and no place for hope and love, you bury your future happiness. I have experienced all the aforementioned situations. It’s all true. It’s the rule. As we grip the pain of the past, there’s no future. We’re not living in heaven. Some people disappoint us and we might disappoint others as well, consciously or consciously.
Again, I believe in compensation and I believe in the butterfly effect. Focus on doing the right thing and watch our tongue. To learn and to be mentally strong. Life will get better. I guarantee.
As we believe we are being loved, we shine. As we believe we are being unloved, we get vulnerable. As you suffer, please believe in compensation and pray for God’s advice.
Dichotomy = Trap
There are no absolute good news and absolute bad news. A piece of good news is usually accompanied by more challenges and responsibilities or even some hidden traps if you look back on your life. A piece of bad news can be a reminder from God to fix your weaknesses, such as laziness. Illness can be a reminder for you to take better care of yourself. Self-discipline is necessary for a good life, which is emphasized in the Bible. Also, A piece of bad news can be a hint from God to lead you to find a better route.
God is fair. Givers might not be returned with proportional love for the present. Givers will receive proportional blessings and luck from God and givers will receive proportional love in the future. Help people around you. However, do not seek recognition from humans. Seek recognition from God. God knows your heart and motive. God records everything, including every spoken word.
Will our hearts be safe if we stop loving anyone? By removing love from your life, you won’t feel pain and you won’t feel happiness anymore. By removing love from your life, you will suffer from an unshakable sense of loneliness and emptiness. By removing love from your life, your soul will fade and your body will get weak. It’s a universal fact that humans are designed to love. We are desire to be loved. That’s why belonging and love are identified as human’s basic survival needs.
Love Hurts & Love Heals
Some people disappoint you and some people love you so much more than you can imagine. Love hurts and love heals. People suffer as they stop believing in love. People suffer as they stop trusting anyone.
It’s a beautiful ability to love and to give. Some people have a strong motive to take care of the weak and the needy due to compassion and responsibility. However, many generous givers suffer due to others’ ungrateful, or even demanding comments. Generous givers suffer as they find their kindness, commitment or generosity are not being appreciated or even stigmatized.
- The Mindest of givers: What can I contribute? How can I help others? The givers see the needs and suffering of others. The givers are those who are compassionate by nature.
- The Mindest of takers: He/she should do more for me. He/she should help me more.
The more you suffer, the more you want to be loved. The more you suffer, the more you care about the relationship. If you find yourself suffering from giving, you’d better take care of your heart first. Life is about learning. Separation is inevitable.
I would say, to be understood is a luxury. When you feel lonely or sad for not being understood, talk to God and you will find inner peace. God knows everything and God knows your kindness and generosity. All the happenings occur for the sake of training and learning.
There’s nothing to blame for giving trust. Never. Those with a good heart never predict betrayal or darkness from people around them or from whom they like.
12 Lessons for Everyone
- deal with rejection/ betrayal in relationships.
- deal with separation
- deal with variables in life
- the ability to believe in the goodness of human beings again
- the ability to give trust in others again
- find the gift behind challenges and trials in life
- the courage to say no/ the courage to be disliked or excluded.
- the courage to end an unhealthy and abusive relationship out of self-love and self-respect
- Turn your life troubles into your duty and responsibilities to the world.
- Suffering and compensation are and will be proportional.
- Believe in God’s existence and God’s arrangement.
- Voice for the weak and the needed.
- Fight for a better world.
- Never lose hope, kindness, and enthusiasm no matter what.
We Fall and we Grow
We suffer and we learn more about life. We fall and we learn to be compassionate and less judgmental.
Fault Tolerance + Trial and Error
By self-error detecting, I realize I can do better or I might disappoint someone without awareness, such as not offer help and concern when someone needs me without asking.
How to Be Wiser in the Next Relationship?
If you desire to get married and have your own child before 30 or in your 30s, discuss parenting and matrimonial affairs with your partner at the very beginning of dating. You might be surprised by my advice.
It’s a commonplace thing that women discuss matrimonial affairs with their partners until years of dating and find their partner are not interested in getting married. Or, women discuss matrimonial affairs with their partners until being proposed or after marriage, then, wives find they can never reach a consensus with their husband and can never stop arguing and fighting.
If you are not interested in getting married but interested in having a lifetime partner, you’d better learn from past relationships. Are you comfortable with your partner seeing friends of the opposite sex? You’d better discuss what’s unacceptable to you at the very beginning of dating. Usually, men tend to compromise more at the very beginning of dating. Write down the rules and make it an agreement between both parties.
Men with good looking do not cheat more than men with a common feature, which is just a myth. Whether a man cheats or not hinges on a man’s self-discipline.
Signs of Dating a Mr. Abusive
Mr. Abusive tends to isolate you from your original social circle. They rush into a relationship. They tend to settle down very quickly, like in days or within a week. They might kiss you during the second dating. They are extremely generous before dating. They are extremely tender and extremely volatile. Mr. Abusive can be the most attentive man you have ever met.
Keywords to build a healthy relationship
- Seet boundaries.
- Defend your principles.
- Voice your needs and wants.
- Clarify what is negotiable and nonnegotiable.
- There’s reasonable anger and excessive anger. There’s reasonable sorrow and excessive sorrow. Set a deadline for your negative emotions. According to the Bible, God expects us to end our anger before the sun goes down. Negative emotions will make people a fool, so do vanity and pride.
If you can’t express your true thoughts to your friends, the connection is not real.
You are always given the rights to end an unhealthy relationship or set your boundaries. If you are a person full of love, principle and self-love matter. Take care of others is a virtue. However, you’d better take care of your heart every single day. Ask yourself before bedtime, “Do I take good care of myself?” Self-love will empower you to keep a stable state no matter what. Self-love is a belief that knowing that you are good enough to be loved. Self-love is having the confidence to improve your vulnerabilities and become a mentally stronger person.
If you do love yourself, giving love to others is a bonus. If you don’t love yourself, namely you are not satisfied with yourself, giving love to others would turn out to be a hidden form of demanding love and approval, consciously or not. Chances are, some people can never return your affection and some people will love you so much no matter what. We don’t have to be perfect to be loved. You are good enough and beautiful for those who truly love you.
As a persons’ self-confidence is totally based on other’s feedback and reactions, he/she will be totally vulnerable. It’s a commonplace thing that some people work so hard to earn others’ love without taking good care of themselves. By doing so, they build vulnerable unbalanced relationships. An abusive relationship is rife with verbal abuse. End an abusive relationship no matter what.
It’s human nature to give love and we desire to be loved and respected. However, respect can never be earned easily. It’s a universal rule that there will be compensation behind a storm, which is validated by the Bible if we do not blind our vision due to negative emotions, such as anger, anxiety, and fear.
Every deed and everything you and I throw into the world will return. As we believe in our potential, we shine. As we deny our ability to have a good life, we fade. We are created to be different. Brave enough to be different and you will be free and charming.
Be Tender and Be Brave
Some people do everything right and correct in a relationship that they are being tender, humble, responsible and compassionate. They are being perfect, but they do not receive the love and faithfulness they deserve. Evidently, the training for them is to be brave. They have to be brave enough to end an unhealthy relationship, including an abusive relationship. The lesson for them is self-love and self-respect. By valuing yourself, do not take improper treatment. Set boundaries and defend your principles out of self-love and self-respect. Again, be tender, brave, and hopeful. Be patient for what you want out of life. You are generous to live and you are brave enough to end an unhealthy relationship.
How to Find My Destiny?
Do not rush into love due to singlism. Do not settle down out of peer pressure or loneliness. It’s never easy to end a love relationship. The average life expectancy for humans is around 80 to 100 years old. Imagine that you get married in your 20s, will you comfortable spend your life with a man for around 80 years? In truth, people who get married in their 30s or 40s earn more time and chance to pursue their dreams or career. Women envy beautiful women. However, beautiful women are more likely to be pursued by men who are shallow and men who are only attracted by their looks. In other words, women without outstanding looks are more likely to be pursued by men who are attracted by their souls or characters. Singlism Creates More Miserable Couples
Rule 1: Stop asking him does he loves you or not like a fool. Actions speak the truth. Thus, don’t ask. Just observe and feel. Evaluate your love life on a regular basis. Does he deserve your love and affection? Does he value and cherish your love and commitment? Balance is the key. A love relationship can’t be stable if there’s a one-way route. Happiness and mutual respect are the foundations of a healthy and stable love life. Does he respect your career? Does he give mental support as you are vulnerable? What Does the Bible Say About Dreams Coming True?
It’s hard to tell whether a man loves you or not, but it’s quite easy to tell if he cherishes you or not. It’s an irony that many men who are good at creating romance and giving promises do not have the ability to love that their commitment will end right after getting married. Many married men claimed to love their partner, but they never learn to respect their wife. Marriages won’t work without love and mutual respect. The foundation of love is respect. Many old couples and old wives stay together till the end of the world not because of eternal passion. Passionate love can’t last for a decade.
Some couples aim to end a relationship but because they suffer from life partners’ habitual indifference or habitual verbal bullying. Verbal abuse is so common that a person uses negative words so often as he/she communicates with his/her life partner. It’s a harsh truth that many self-centered prideful men only use negative words to their lover and wife while they stay polite and humble as they socialize with others in public.
Many married men ruin their marriage by trying hard to be superior to their wife or tend to educate their partner in the role of an uninvited supervisor instead of being their wife’s equal or protector. That’s why they abuse their partner by using demeaning words as a habit, consciously or not.
As human beings, we desire psychological comfort by nature by a craving for each other’s company. Without respect, love can be a disillusionment.
If the man you’re in love with is not worthy of your love and time, you have to let it go. You have to end an unearthly toxic unhealthy relationship so as to receive a healthy relationship in the future. Habitual lies, cheating, and mean words are warning signs.
Keep becoming a better me is the best thing you can do for your future partner. Believe in God’s arrangement. Be tender, be patient, and be hopeful.
End an Abusive Relationship ASAP
A part of a healthy conscience is being able to confront consciencelessness. -Martha Stout, The Socipath Next Door
Take Relationship Advice from the Bible
Margaret W. Lavigne: God is fair. Everyone will receive equal love from the world, either from their parents, friends, lovers, or even strangers. Everyone will have hard lessons in life, including the righteous and chosen ones. What happened to you in your past are challenges and training from God. According to the Bible, those who earn the chance to win the ticket from heaven will have trials in life. If they pass the course from God, they will earn the chance to stay in heaven forever. God has to testify whether a righteous person can be righteous in any circumstance.
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