written by Margaret W. Lavigne
How do we view loss, separation, and rejection will highly affect our sense of security in a romantic relationship. Do we carry the wounds inflicted by parental relationships and friendships into the future love relationship? Will you love yourself less due to others’ evaluation of you? After witnessing or experiencing different forms of betrayals in life, Are you being positive or pessimistic about your future relationships?
Separation and betrayal can be heartbreaking and frightening. Losing a trusted partner or losing a trusted partner’s trust and affection can be devastating. The fear of losing might lead to anxiety, jealousy, and improper control in a relationship. If someone you loved and trusted left or betrayed you, you are more likely to develop a strong fear of experiencing the same thing again. Very often, this anxiety might not be recognized and identified. This anxiety might be manifest in the form of clingy and controlling behaviors that you might show the need to be in constant communication with your partner or you might demand too much attention and affection from your partner. By doing so, you might find yourself pushing your loved ones away. By doing so, you might find yourself failing to cultivate healthy stable relationships.
As human beings, we have the desire to be loved and to give love. We become a better me as we fully believe that we are unconditionally loved. Love is not romantic. Are you being comfortable with your imperfection? Are you being comfortable as you unveil your imperfection and weakness to your lover or life partner? Love can be stressful because we have to deal with the fear of losing and the fear of separation. As to a love relationship, some people might suffer due to the uncertainty of romance.
Will love last forever? Respect is the foundation of any relationship. As to any interpersonal relationships, we have to show people how to show respect by setting our boundaries and defending our principles.
Without trust, there’s no intimacy. Without trust, there is no deep connection. As we give trust, we have to bear the risk of possible betrayal for sure. It’s nothing wrong to give full trust to someone you do love. There’s nothing to blame for giving trust. It’s a brave and beautiful decision. To love and be careful when you give full trust.
The anxiety of losing someone we love is named thanatophobia. Thantophobia has something to do with the fear and anxiety of losing someone you love, which can leave a person having unshakable panic, worry, and negative thought patterns. The symptoms of thanatophobia are paired with the diagnosis of generalized anxiety disorder.
Common physical manifestations of thanatophobia include frequent panic attacks, increased anxiety, dizzy spells, sweating, nausea, agitation, sadness, guilt, anger, heart palpitations, or leaving you in a state of persistent worry.
Fear & Anxiety =Lose of Hope +Absolute Pessimistic Thinking
You have to understand your fear. You feel terrible because you believe you lose something or someone valuable. That does make sense. You feel terrible because you believe you can’t have someone or something better for the rest of your life, which is totally pessimistic.
27 True Love & Real Love Quotes
“Love is not just feelings of passion and romance…If a man lies to you he is behaving badly and unlovingly toward you. He is disrespecting you and your relationship. The words “I love you” are not enough to make up for that. Don’t kid yourself that they are.”
― Susan Forward, When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal
“True love is knowing a person’s faults, and loving them even more for them.”
I’m stronger than depression and I am braver than loneliness and nothing will ever exhaust me. －Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love.
Just because we can’t be together doesn’t mean I won’t love you.-Gossip Girl.
I’m going to need you more than you need me. -Film, Love & Other Drugs