瓊瑤專訪談第一段婚姻「勉強維持一輩子的錯誤,是更大更大的錯誤」

瓊瑤阿姨接受【看版人物】專訪時說了:「我常常說大家認為我可能很光鮮,可能被保護的無微不至,被呵護地很好,可是呢,沒有人真正的走進我的生活看過我的生活。」

而今八十歲的作家瓊瑤在專訪中表示:「婚姻制度和所有法律一樣,是只有人類才會發明的東西。因為人太容易見異思遷,所以要有婚姻制度來保護婚姻。基本上,是保護女性。……我認為,這世界上沒有完人,幾乎人人都會犯錯。犯錯沒關係,知錯能改才重要。兩個相愛的人,可以「結婚」,一旦愛情破滅,可以「離婚」。這樣很公平。許多人因愛情而結婚,婚後問題才一一浮現,終於以「離婚」收場。婚姻的破滅,有千千萬萬種理由。我不諱言,當我發現我的婚姻是一個「錯誤」的時候,我認為勉強維持一輩子的錯誤,是「更大更大的錯誤」,只有離婚,才是正確的辦法。也只有離婚,才能給孩子一個沒有戰爭的成長環境。所以,我寫了很多婚姻的故事,家庭的故事。我也寫了一本《我的故事》,讓大家明白,婚姻是什麼?托爾斯泰說過:「所有幸福的家庭都是相似的,不幸的家庭,各有各的不幸!」這是一個值得大家深思的問題,不要把不幸的婚姻,盲目的認定誰對誰錯,因為你不是婚姻裡的當事人,你永遠不會知道那些千奇百怪的真相!人,是很複雜的生物。[….]人生總有很多想像不到的事,我說過:「生時願像火花,燃燒到生命最後一刻!死時願像雪花,飄然落地,化為塵土!」我現在還活著,還是火花。備註:瓊瑤女士說過自己未完成的小說是《梅花英雄夢》。

瓊瑤首次電視專訪 最愛最痛.人生課 看板人物 20170903 (完整版)

 

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